May 24- June 6: Chapters 9-10: Asking for What You Want and Now is the Time

Asking for what you want is often the most difficult thing for women but rarely do people get what they want without doing so. Often people have a hard time asking because they see it as too risky or fear rejection. Also, others don’t want to be asking for personal favors, be on the hook for favors or have people know what is really motivating them. The majority of these concerns can be dispelled by recognizing that they may say no and that is not the end of the world. Asking for what you want should be viewed as the beginning of a negotiation. If the answer is no, there may be a fall back position that will still be satisfactory. Also, finding out why the answer is no can give valuable information for the next question. Understanding what your value is in the marketplace and in your organization allows you to determine what your choices are and to make a plan.


Question: What is my follow up question when I hear the word no?

Question: What is stopping me from asking the questions I want answered?

Question: How do I increase my comfort level in asking for information and assistance?

Question: Where do I want to be in one year? Five years? What should I be doing to achieve that?